The domestic queen has been dusting off her crown. When I moved into my cozy apartment last September I did not have time to enjoy the charm of my deck and I decided to rectify that situation this year. I bought an umbrella for my table, an adorable glass candle lamp, some butterfly twinkle lights, a small grill and (gasp!) real plants! This has become my peaceful oasis each morning & night. Even though I live in the city I have some lovely countryside to gaze upon.

I enjoy my morning coffee and protein bar while I listen to the million birds that seem to inhabit the trees close by. It amuses me to watch Mz SassyKat growl at the birds--as if she is kitty enough to take them on!

Last nite I finally got home around 9pm after meeting with two clients---I believe I was babbling insensibly with the last client and she sent me on my merry way. I headed straight for Panera for nourishment. I got my favorite sandwich---mediterreanean veggie and they have brought my favorite salad back: strawberry poppyseed chicken salad. I headed straight for the deck and basked under the glow of a rosy moon as it rose in the sky. It was a lovely way to end the evening with my faithful furry daughter sitting by my side.

Labels: Deck, Mz. SassyKat, Oasis, Peace

I basically had a mass funeral for all the men yesterday. One fell swoop and bam--outta there. I know you want details:

27A--We finally did the deed and it was quite good. However, he thought it gave him exclusive rights to my time and attention. I went to lunch with older Harley man yesterday. During lunch, I get a text message that I ignore. Lunch with Harley basically consisted of him telling me his investment strategies and his need for a new accountant. I pitched my accounting services. It was about as innocent as a lunch could get. I get out to my car after lunch and look at the text message it read: "So you are busy with some old guy on a yellow Harley at Shakers...blah blah blah". I text back "What is all the drama about? He is a friend and the lunch was innocent...which you surely saw for yourself since you watched the entire thing" and on it went. So he is outta here. I just will not put up with that crap. I told him it would have been one thing if he asked the question who I was with, but to do a full frontal assault with no details.....

Older Harley man is outta the picture. I just can't waste my time and energy with people I know are wrong.

27B--He is heart meltingly sweet. He planned the romantic picnic Wednesday night that was just delightful. He just isn't the one and coincidentally he asked the question of what his chances were with me.....so I told him as kindly as I could that I just was not feeling the "zing". I broke his heart and I felt horrible last night as we had this conversation. I seriously broke his heart, he cried.

So the two that remain: Adorable--still MIA again and a new guy that I agreed to have lunch with today.

On to some more interesting news: my ballet and modern dance classes are paying big dividends with my ballroom dance. My dance instructor said he could tell a big difference with my dancing. Yeah!!!!! Of course, he gave me little details to work on to sharpen my dance....so I went home with a long homework list.

I found a date for the 20 year reunion (that is being held on year 21--brilliant) and a personal trainer in a blink. I was out for drinks with Jadey and Bea. One of the male massage therapist at their place joined us. I know Rob and we work together when I run the receptionist desk at the spa. I always see him in scrubs though so when he came in a tank and shorts I apparently drooled conspicuously. He has an incredibly buff body. I mean my god! I have not seen such a fine specimen up close and personal. So Jadey teased me in front of Rob about staring at him and I am like, "Rob, I always see you in scrubs--you are like totally amazing!" Then we got on the subject of birthday wishes since Jadey, Michael (another masseuse who joined us) and I all have our birthdays in June. I said what I wanted, among other things, is to find someone amazing to take me to my reunion in July. Jadey is like, "Rob will be glad to take you since you find him so amazing." Well, I didn't take the suggestion serious until Jade said, "So Rob, you are taking Sassy to her reunion right?" Rob is like "Sure I would be happy to" and he meant it. Rob did not realize I was an accountant and when he found out he says, "You are so NOT like any accountant I have ever seen or known and this is a compliment." So I tell Rob, when I get more clients I want to get some personal training sessions. He tells me, no need, you show up and I will give you sessions for free. So my friends, I have a date for my reunion with a luscious piece of arm candy and I now have a personal trainer. A good time will be had by all!!!

So that is the weekend scoop. Hope ya'll had a much less dramatic weekend.

Labels: 27B, Adorable, Arm Candy, dating, dating hell, dating sex Adorable men Book Boy dance, Mr. 27

I went out with both 27a and 27b this weekend. 27b is a real sweetie. We spent a delightful evening laughing & talking. I really did not put much effort into my appearance to be honest. I just wanted a laid back evening so I was quite surprised when 27b told me I was super sexy. Got another conquest....darn it! I LIKE him he is fun...a buddy kind of fun and he is crazy in like with me. *sigh* He is also rather innocent....sweet kisser, not a lot of experience. I am going to have to cut him loose. I thought I would go on one more date and then tell him that I just don't feel the "zing". During the entire date, 27a kept text messaging me and he called me at 11pm to see where I was so he could join me....

27a finally got a clue last nite...he said he realized I just want to be friends right now....bingo. At last someone who pays attention to the clues.

No newbie dating wannabees on the scene right at this very moment. I really think I am going to have to stop the dating for the last bit of school. I have not been able to concentrate on these things juggling all these men. School is more important.

I had a weird dream last nite....I dreamed that this old friend who suddenly ceased to speak to me except on rare occasion handed me a life raft. She then said, "I have missed you and I have made plans for us to go away for the weekend." Her parents were standing around trying to inflate the raft I was given and they were all smiles. Yeah, it doesn't make sense to me either.

Have a happy week ya'll!!!

Labels: 27B, dating, Mr. 27

The Joseph saga continues. Karma has plans apparently: Monday nite one of Mandy's toys appeared out of nowhere, I think the cat dragged it out of hiding. I emailed Joseph with three options: 1)I mail it to him 2) I drop it off at his best friend's house 3) I trash it. He responds with option 4: he comes and gets it. So I said, "whatever, just let me know". Apparently, the subtle nuances of my lack of interest in him have gone right over his head or maybe he thinks he can win me over on sheer charm. So, he is coming over this week supposedly to get the toy and I decided to keep this meeting to my advantage so I asked him to fix my lappy.

Latin Lovah was silent all week until last night. The chat perplexes me: he started out by apologizing for his behavior and comments and then we chatted a few more minutes and he said he would never be speaking to me again. Lord save me from such men in the future!!

27 has signed up for latin ballroom. I am flabbergasted! All the guys I have gone out with have made motions about doing that and I just say "sure, sure". This guy not only says it, but he takes the bull by the horns and signs up for lessons. He wants to be able to dance with me he says. He is really going over the top to impress me just for booty (which he has not gotten!).

27B has come along...he is a teacher , aged 27, and he popped up this week. Seems like a nice guy, nice looking, smart...we are going on our first date tonight. Downside: he currently lives with parents to save up for a house. He told me I would probably run now that I know that....I said I would give him a chance. He has no children and no psycho ex-wives so both of those are positives.

Apparently, I am very popular with the 25-30 age group and the other end of the spectrum 50-65 age group.

I did not get to break up with Hot College Guy before his return to India for vacay. He unexpectedly left the evening we were going to meet. I know he is planning to visit his ex-girlfriend while he is there so I am keeping my fingers crossed that he decides to reunite with her & break up with me....save me from doing the dirty work.

I got an email from a fellow on Match.com. This is what he wrote:
"I enjoyed reading your profile - now that is how a profile should be written. It speaks volumes about you and your intelligence. I hate the ads where the woman starts out saying, "I'm attractive". You hit the nail on the head - there is so much that goes into attraction and its a personal thing (what someone likes - others may not). Intelligence plays a big part and I can tell you got it going on. Anyway - I"m not as match on several levels according to the match thingy and the fact that I have children which you prefer men that don't. I'm just the opposite, I prefer women that do. I just felt compelled to write and compliment. It was refreshing to read. Good luck in your search."

Isn't that too cool???

Last nite I surprised my friend Bea with tickets to see Juanito Pascal. He is a flamenco guitarist. He had a flamenco dancer with him. I now want to learn how to flamenco. I met Juanito after the show and got his autograph. He is so very nice and talented. Check him out if you get a chance.

Have a great weekend and I hope to get back to reading everyone's blogs....Utenzi's especially!

Labels: 27B, dating, Hot College Guy, Joseph, Karma, Latin Lovah, Mr. 27

So Latin Lovah....no chemistry in person...at least not on my part...he thinks he has found total package and I found: Excellent kisser, great romancer, whiner. Put an end to that situation tonight. He got real jealous and I am like "dude, we just met, we are getting to know each other".

Here is some interesting gossip: I am driving back from NC meeting Latin Lovah and my cell rings. I almost drove off the road when I read the display: JOSEPH. So curiousity got the best of me and I answered. He apparently saw the picture of me with my nieces that I posted to my online account and called to tell me that "you are a vision of loveliness" and "you are such an inspiration to me". Asked me to call him soon. Guess the man needs a booty call and he thinks (mistakenly) that I have been sitting around pining for him. He is about 2 months too late with this phone call. Not even tempted....the 2 month cycle just doesn't work for me.

Been speaking regularly with both Adorable and 27. 27 has kinda grown on me. I miss his text messages every half hour. Adorable may be coming to visit very very soon (let it be real ssssoooooooooooon). Hot College Guy has not bought the clue like I thought...he is pining away for my company and maybe a booty call before he heads home for several weeks. I just need to bite the bullet and tell him its over....Wednesday nite? The nite before he goes? I am just not sure of the timing...it seems kinda cruel, but then there is never a good time to break up.

Labels: Adorable, dating, Hot College Guy, Joseph, Latin Lovah, Mr. 27

Well, the dating scene changes minute by minute in my life. Gorgeous Waiter has come and gone. Mr. 27 is an excellent kisser, but I have given him the we are just friends speech. I am meeting Hot Latin Guy tonight. He popped up unexpectedly via Yahoo personals and we have chemistry at least on the phone and he looks cute in his pic. He thinks I am "simply stunning" and have "an incredibly sexy voice". He has been a gentleman and not rushed right into discussing sex and hookups which is rather refreshing. While I was speaking to him this morning (1am) my phone beeps in with another call (????) so I take a peek at the phone screen to see who dares call me at that time and......Mr. Adorable. Thats right folks! Turns out (sadly) his father did die while Adorable was on vacation and he just has been too torn up to speak to any one other than his family. I called him back. I could hear the pain in his voice so I know he was being straight up with me. I gave him the green light to get together again. We shall see...I intend to approach with caution, but I am like a moth to his flame.

Let's see...apparently Joseph's idea of "long term" is 2 months because he is on the prowl again for his next victim...I am strangely able to see his activity in the online dating site we belong to. I cancelled the dinner with his best friend...I just can't do it as the man really wants to date me. Larry the Cable Guy dumped me...I guess he is not wanting to be just buddies like I am. What a mixed bag of events...dumped, MIA comes back, I kicked a few to the curb....heavens I am a busy girl!

Labels: Adorable, dating, Hot Latin Guy

I got some sage advice from Mz. Boho on my prior post so I decided she was right...I need to work on my visualization skills....and who knows??????



I have been working out about two hours every day (today is a rest day). I have been doing aerobics, yoga, pilates, ballet, modern dance, the ballroom dance...anyway, last nite my friend Jadey and I are working out and we decide to go grab some food. Initially, we headed for Panera's because we were both still dressed in workout gear...for me that is yoga pants, tank top and snazzy sports bra peeking out...with flashes of some toned abs appearing occasionally. I changed into my high heels with the outfit because the tennies were getting on my nerves. Jadey decides we should see if this hip little place downtown will let us in dressed as we were. They did. We had an incredible waiter, Matt, give us awesome service. This guy was fabbo and great body, gorgeous, lots of personality....Jadey talked me into leaving one of my biz cards with a message on the back to call me if he was interested in going out for a drink. I wake up this morning and check my phone as is my typical habit....damn if there isn't a text message from my gorgeous man....and damn if I missed the opportunity to hook up with him last nite...so I sent text back...hoping to see him tonight after my dinner with Larry the Cable Guy. I am so very attracted to him and I haven't felt this zing in quite some time. Here is hoping for an awesome meeting with him.



Mr. 27 is most attentive (wonder why?). He has wanted to monopolize me every evening, but I have let him know I am busy and he can only have small allotments of time. He is okay. I just don't feel that "thing" with him and unfortunately he feels it for me.



Tomorrow night I have to bite the bullet and have dinner with Joseph's best friend. He is hounding me to death. He wants to take me out in payment of doing his taxes...I just want to let it go, but he is not about to. He wants to date even though I have told him there is no way in hell that will ever happen. Do you think if I pick my nose or drop the "f" word a million times during dinner that he will stop thinking that I am the epitome of the perfect woman??????



PS-the pic is me & my nieces....I saw them last weekend...I love those girls like crazy!!!

Labels: dating, Gorgeous Waiter, Joseph, Mr. 27

Heaven only knows that I have made up for a lot of lost time in the dating world with my many men...but I am beginning to wonder what the point is. I want something meaningful and emotional. I want to touch someone's heart and have him touch mine. I want someone in my life who makes a difference. I don't seem to be getting that and I just am not sure where to look for it....or if it even exists.

I think that is why Adorable's MIA is bothering me so...we really seemed to have made a connection and we had a lot in common AND he told me he was interested in a long-term relationship. Who knows? Maybe his "pre-me" girl came strolling back in his life like Joseph had happen and bam....he decided she was the one afterall. It is just so frustrating that the two men (Adorable and Mystery Man--I never talked about him) that I am extremely interested in and made a strong connection to just went MIA with no explanation and no response to calls/emails/text messages. I started to feel like a stalker, but both of them gave me plausible reasons for being out of touch, so I felt it was initially not unreasonable of me to continue making an effort. *sigh* if you damn guys would just say "get the hell outta my life" rather than disappear....it would make things a bit easier to swallow when we see you out with the latest & greatest ho.

Is there a point to dating? Should I continue to slog through all this meat market gambling? I am so disheartened right now and not a little frustrated. I know I have a lot to offer someone--the right one--but how do I find him? Where the hell is he???????

Labels: Adorable, dating hell

Well, what an exciting weekend....spent weekend with Hot College Guy...I was ultimately disappointed {*sigh*}. It started out good...but it kept going on on on...I finally asked him to stop due to chafing...yeah go ahead, laugh! What the hell? I mean I find my perfect match (at least sexually) with Adorable and bam! gone. So I give Hottie a chance and well, no chemistry on my part....however, he is hot to trot to be with me again...thinks I am one hot sexy woman.
I couldn't get him outta my apartment soon enough today. So i scheduled a date with Mr. 27 for next Saturday (potential replacement for Adorable) and I upped it to this evening. I was dressed to impress and screaming sexy hawt mama. I had time to kill and the devil made me stroll into the bookstore where Book Boy works....can we say dropped jaw and mucho apologies for acting like a jerk last time we saw each other. I did give him a birthday kiss (the boy can kiss!) and we had a mini grope session, but ultimately I let him know that he missed his chance....he went home to pine briefly...he has ditched the teenager and is not seeing someone...tee hee hee...he won't be seeing me either...he had his chance.

I met up with Mr. 27. He is all about wanting sex with older woman....good kisser and he did buy me several drinks. We also had fun making fun of some of the people at the jazz club we were at....hawt to see me again...I am ambivalent....aside from the excellent kissing....I don't care whether I see him again...dammit...I want Adorable...I can't get him outta my head, outta my body, outta my memories....why did he go MIA? Why, I mean he seemed as hawt for me as I was for him....

I got on the scale today for 1st time in 2 months...I am only 14 lbs from my goal weight set last year at this time...woohoo! Gettin skinny! Also spent the weekend dancing the night away....had a blast and took a lesson with the foremost Argentine tango couple with hot dance instructor...it was incredible!

Labels: dating sex Adorable men Book Boy dance

I have been fighting a sinus infection for weeks now...guess I ran myself down during tax season with the crazy hours and hopping social life.

So much to tell and I am sorry I have not kept up with everyone's blogs. I can be such a slacker.

The Men:

1. Art professor got kicked to the curb. We met face-to-face and well, he had this depressed air about him and I just had to say no. When I told him I did not think it was going to work, he told me I was the someone special he has been searching for (*sigh*)--why is it always the wrong man saying the right thing?

2. Adorable...hotter than anyone I have ever been with. Father is dying of cancer and he has gone MIA. Somehow, I think he is just to be a really fab memory and I will be pining for the incredible sex for a long time to come.

3. Hot College Guy...in the lead at the moment. He is steady & dependable. We talk almost everyday and we see each other pretty regularly. He thinks I am awesome and I think he is pretty awesome too. I don't see a future in it, but it is good for right now.

4. Larry the Cable Guy...a great buddy. We enjoy going out to dinner & movies. He is pretty cool, but I'm not attracted to him and I don't believe he is attracted to me. It works for me...hang out with no strings.

5. Mr. Dad....decided to give him a try even though he has kids because his kids are older. However, despite being a successful business man, he comes with mucho baggage....psycho ex-wife, troubled kids....I ran and have not looked back.

6. Mr. Corvette...going through mid-life crisis, but I would go out with him once if I got to ride in his corvette.

7. Found out Biker Dude ditched me to go back to his ho that was pre-me. His best friend has made the moves on me....yikes! Biker Dude sent me an email this week like we are still good friends (barf!).

So that is the man recap.

Dance:

I started back with dancing. I travel to Charlotte, NC to the Queen City Ballroom. Nikolai is my dance instructor. Not only is he hawt!, but we dance very well together. I also started some private sessions on ballet & modern dance to sharpen my ballroom moves. Between the dance, yoga & aerobics, I continue to lose weight and I am getting into some really sexy adorable clothing to showcase the girls. My friends, Jadey and Bea, have been instrumental in finding me some awesome clothing to go dancing in. We have also been hanging out in a latin club that opened up down the road from my apartment. The owner just loves us and we get treated like queens. He makes sure he sends his dancer/studs to us for a turn on the dance floor. This week, he made a special run down the street to get us mint for our mojitos. I love the goddess treatment.

Work:

I am really going to go full force with marketing efforts to get my accounting business off the ground. Got some things shaping up for me!

School:

Only 5 weeks left and I will have my BBA! Woo baby! Then a little break. I will be enrolling in a Master of Accountancy with concentration in Forensic Accounting after that. I finally decided what I want to be when I grow up. A CSI in the accounting world. I will sit for the Certified Fraud exam and for the CPA exam. Just two more years of schooling to go! I can do it (I think).

so what is new with you guys????????

Labels: dancing, dating, school, sex, work