The ex-hub and I had to meet this weekend to finish up some business between us. We are on good terms and we get along well now that we are not living together. In fact, I would venture to say we are better friends now than we ever were during the marriage.

Our business was conducted at the DMV and involved transferring title to our respective vehicles. We just never got around to it until now. We must have worked with the DMV girl for about 20 minutes and we just chatted with each other and caught up on current events. Towards the end, the DMV girl looked at us both and asked, "You guys are getting a divorce?" I said, "No, we are already divorced." She shook her head and said, "I just can't believe it. You two seem perfect for each other and you get along so well." My reply was the same as the one I gave my divorce lawyer when she made the same observation, "It is easy to get along when you are no longer living with each other."

Ex-hub didn't look real well and I asked him about it. He has some fairly serious health issues including what looks like the start of the disease that caused his mother's death. I am worried about him and feel helpless all at the same time. I feel some responsibility towards him as all of his family is in the mid-west with the exception of our son (my stepson). He has no one to look after him should he end up in the hospital. No one to help him should he need to get to the doctor.

This makes me wonder...do we ever really cut the ties that bind?

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