The great thing about one hit wonders is that they never worry about a repeat performance. They can get in there, do their one thing very very well and move on. No looking back, no wondering if they could improve.

I can't imagine ever being satisfied with the status quo. I could never be a one hit wonder. I want to excel in everything I do and I am always trying to improve.

Take sex...there is so much more to it than the horizontal. I love to watch movies (infer what you wish there); I frequent the sexuality section in B&N (no matter what creepy men are hanging about); I have frank conversations with guy pals to get the inside scoop on best practices; I subscribe to a phenomenal UK magazine called Scarlet to find out the latest and greatest trends, toys, and gossip; I visit some very cool sex boutiques; I watch Sex and the City every night (simply because I love it and I am a junkie). I definitely put into practice what I learn....well the things that are a good fit for me. How can people remain stagnant on such an important topic?

The advantage to having a relationship with one person is there is limitless opportunities to not only enjoy each other, but to explore the many avenues that sex affords. So much sexuality so little time! Being with one person certainly does not have to be boring if both come to the party ready to have fun. It is a blast to try new oils, lotions, flavored condoms, a myriad of positions, toys, and the imagination.

Burn a few candles, pour some wine, strap some CFM shoes on and a sexy bustier and have some fun. Maybe throw in some whipped cream or chocolate sauce for a sweet treat. Sexy is more than being model thin; it is an attitude, a glance, a touch. Sexy is a vibe that anyone can have.

So where am I going with this? I had a one hit wonder encounter this week. The guy and I have obvious tangible chemistry. We have fun together. We had a date and a few beers, shots & pizza later we got into a heavy make out session that led to other more intimate things. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't want to marry this guy, have his babies or even live with him. I would love to go out with him again, but I think he moved on. It is frustrating! The sex was great for both parties and I walked away knowing I would not hear from him again unless he is looking for a booty call. This guy is nice and considerate and I have to wonder....why won't he be calling?

I think it is the One Hit Wonder Syndrome: "I have had that so now I will leave--no need to anticipate another date with Sassy and have to up the ante. I may not be able to top this date so I will stop while I am ahead."

I prefer to think it is this rather than he was just notching up his bedpost, but I should call a spade a spade. I won't be waiting around for his call and if he does...well, I guess if I am in need of servicing I will respond.

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