I really do have a life apart from coupledom. I have been doing the new tai chi class which is a lot of fun. I am also going to be starting a yoga class next week. Some of us livelier folks at work have been going bowling on our lunch hour every Thursday. Sassy O'What an Assy has been bowling pretty darn good (118 highest score, but hey, I was shooting for 50 so cool!) and our impromptu bowling team thinks I am a scream to bowl with...I talk a lot of smack. I also have Ryan time (no matter what she says...she has been blowing me off) and Jade & Bea time. In fact, last Sunday Jade gave me the most awesome hot stone massage and facial. I thought I died and went to heaven.

The shopping weekend with my friend Bea several weeks ago was a lot of fun. We chose to shop rather than go dancing that weekend. I passed a major milestone in my life that weekend. I really like the store Cache, but I have never been able to wear any of the clothing there because I just was not in their "ideal" size range. Well, Sassy has apparently shrunk her Assy (and other top heavy assets) because I am now the proud owner of the most awesome silk leopard print halter top from Cache. I am thrilled!

Jade and I are planning a jaunt to go dancing all weekend soon. Our dancing school has become more interested in being a nightclub. Nothing wrong with that, but we want to dance tango and rumba rather than hip hop. So we are planning a trip to spin out on the dance floor for an evening or two with this yummy dance instructor/friend of hers.

Tonight I am booked to capacity. I am helping a friend make a scrapbook for her daughter and then I am off to spend time with Ryan working on homework. No Biker Dude on the scene yesterday & today. We decided we both need to keep perspective and spend time with our friends apart from each other. Absence does make the heart grow fonder...Biker Dude just told me this morning that he really misses me. He said he never thought he would say that to anyone again.

Of course, the rest of my weekend is all Biker Dude's. I meet the 4 year old tomorrow. We spoke on the phone yesterday and she is a chatterbox after my own heart. Biker Dude and I are taking the girls out to Outback tomorrow night. We are both bringing some good friends with us to start the couple-merge process. Great company and good food sounds like a recipe for a wonderful evening. Sunday, Biker Dude and I will be cooking an Italian feast for his best friend's family. Really, Biker Dude is doing the majority of the cooking (his specialty & pleasure) and I will be supplementing with the sides and probably dessert. At some point, Biker Dude & I will be taking the 4 year old back to her mother's. Biker Dude & I will find out how compatible we are as traveling companions; which is crucial in our relationship if he is going to turn me into a hot biker chick.

I like normal and peaceful and steady. You see, most of the guys I have gone out with then & now and the nutjob I married were always missing one or more of those traits. It AMAZES me (as it does Biker Dude) how completely we seem to be on the same page and in the same place life-wise. It is natural between us...I don't even know if I have the words to explain this phenomenon. It is just "right" when we are together. We were joking this morning that hopefully 20 years from now we would be together and it would be the same atmosphere between us. I like the fact that we are both cool about not marrying, but having a committed relationship. I guess that could change 5+ years down the road, but we were both so burnt in the marital department that neither of us wants to go there, but never say never. He (thankfully, since I cannot pony up) does not want any more children. He is a man who is capable of being attentive to both me and his children and balancing our respective needs of him fairly. Let me tell you, that impresses me the most because that is something I never experienced in the marriage. I was always 4th person on the totem pole. In fact, Biker Dude + kids almost got him kicked to the curb, but I did some careful investigating on his parenting/significant other style. If he holds true & constant to what I have seen, we will get along fine.

This man LOVES the fact that I am an independent woman and I can take care of myself. In my experience, this is a rarity in most men as they like to "take care" of the woman completely. It is amazing we gave each other a chance initially. I mean I would never ever ever have gone out with a biker dude and he would never ever have gone out with a white-collar princess with short hair, but we decided to go outside the box and it seems to be working. We actually have more in common than not. He told me the other night after we got back from a shopping trek that when he was walking behind me he said my short hair looked incredibly sexy just bouncing around my head as I walked. He has never dated a woman with short hair before and it surprises him how much he likes it. I am surprised how sexy I find the bald head/black leather/bandana outfit. Not that he has worn that since we met, but I have seen pictures. I like his bald head and I never thought I would go for bald. Have I mentioned that he has a deep sexy voice? I know, I have veered off the intended path of life apart from Biker Dude, but what can I say? I like my time divided thus: 90% Biker Dude, 10% Sassy time.

Labels: Biker Dude, friends