I had time to think this afternoon in the heavy traffic around the mall area (such a dangerous activity for me). It struck me that when I was married, most of my friends were couples with no kids or they were singles. Now that I am single, most of my friends are marrieds or couples of sorts (deja vu of my first go round in the single world).

It really makes no difference, except in social settings. A couple of my close friends are married and they usually include me in social gatherings. I have noticed that some married women feel strange around single women in the group (and boy does it show). I usually end up hearing about the home front fires and I have nothing to contribute because my life does not involve children or significant others. I am consequently left out of conversations and my mind wanders far far away. The ranks effectively shut me out, without that direct intention I am sure.

Additionally, without a significant other on my arm to squire me about, social gatherings this time of year become awkward...invite Sassy or no? Does she have a plus-one she can bring? I really don't have time at the moment to do more than a hit-or-miss date on rare occasion so I have no one in particular I can rely on to be an escort to these functions....unless I want to end the evening with a bootay call.

As for my single friends, none of them live close by me. I cannot even go out for drinks and commiserate with them on the irony that life dishes out for this single woman. I just promise my single friends this: when I hit the big time or the lotto, we are going on a cruise at holiday time compliments of me....you buy the first round of mojitos though!

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